brain teasers for married couples

(upbeat music) (cheering)(applauding) – Hey, everyone. I’m your host Vanessa Lachey. – And obviously I’m Nick Lachey. (chuckling) – Welcome to the Love is Blind reunion. – Yeah! (applauding)(cheering) – I love it. I wish you could feelthe energy in this room. Now, we have seen all of our contestants fall blindly in love for each other. They’ve connectedemotionally and physically. They have made out. They’ve broken up. They’ve made up, and some of them even made it down the aisle. – That’s right. We’re here today to catchup with the participants and talk about the results ofthis Blind Love experiment, and their reactions to seeingit all play out on screen. (whooshing) (soft music) – It’s just crazy to think that, you know, a couple months ago I was single, I was living the life, and the journey has just brought me here. – Will you marry me? Will you marry me? – Will you marry me? (chuckling) Yes, yes. – I will marry you. – I’ve spent every secondfocusing on finding my wife. – Oh my gosh. – My favorite was Barnett. He made me laugh so much. Hi. (giggling) – Hi. – I know we’re gonnahave a lot of challenges in the real world, but I wouldn’tchange anything about him. – You guys, it’s so goodto see you all again. – Yeah. – Yes. – I feel like a family reunion though. (scattered agreement) – Like a true family reunion that you kinda don’t wanna go to. (laughing) – I think the first thing weshould do is kick this whole thing off with some quickupdates from you guys. Raise your hand ifyou’re currently single. – Okay, raise your hand if you are married to your fiance from the experiment. – [Nick] Wow. (applauding) – [Vanessa] Beautiful, right? All right.

Default brain teasers for married couplesAll right. – Well, guys, raise yourhand if you’re currently in a relationship, okay. – Yeah, I guess I would also be. (scattered murmuring) – Raise your hand in you’recurrently in a relationship with your fiance from the experiment? (applauding)(cheering) So what goes around comes around. (awwing) – This is good already. – I know.- We’re barely started here. – Nick, I don’t know about you, I’m gonna need some details. – A lot more details. – A lot of details.- Yep. – [Vanessa] We had Kenny and Kelly. – Yeah. – [Vanessa] Hey guys. – Hi.- How’s it going? – So what’s going on? – Yeah, so I am still single, but I did a few like careertransitions since the show. I also dated one of my bestfriends since the show, and he was actually at our wedding, (laughing) right, but you know,I think since the show it’s been a lot of self-growth, from what I’ve learned from the show, taking that into that relationship. – How about you, Kenny? – I honestly, not to sugarcoat it, but could not be doing better. This experiment, whetherI understood it or not, allowed me to find theperson I’m with today. (awwing) Because it allowed me to open myself up, to truly be vulnerable, and I have the best girlfriend for me. – And I’m sure you guys are documenting everything on camera. – I’ve actually learnedthat as not a good thing. – [Vanessa] Are you serious? Amber and Barnett, youguys, you got married in our experiment andyou are still together. Fill us in. – Well, I haven’t killed him yet. (laughing) We’ve been doing great. – Learning about ourselveswhile we’ve been traveling and doing fun stuff. It’s been awesome. – The best. – [Barnett] It’s been awesome. – We did move closer to the city now. Our house was haunted, ya’ll. Not a fan. (laughing) – She thinks it was haunted.

1 brain teasers for married couples– She thinks it was haunted. I think it was dust, whatever. (laughing) So ever since this show,we’ve been followed by bad spirits. – [Nick] And on that note. – So what about you, Jessica? What have you been up to? – Honestly, you know,we’ve all just kinda seen this all play out. There were some reallycringe worthy moments for me, watching it back that I’vebeen able to reflect on. It was kind of rough for me, you know, when I realized that thingswere really, you know, going the way that Ihoped that they would, so I took this past year,went back home to Chicago for six months, just to be, you know, closer to my family andkinda heal up a little bit, and kinda reflect andfigure out, you know, how to change course, andthen now I’m out in L.A., and I’ve just recentlystarted dating again, so it’s all right. – I love that, I love that. Carlton? – [Carlton] Yes? – So what’s been goingon since the experiment? – I’ve really just beenworking on Carlton. I’m single still. I’ve taken some self-reflection. Obviously what happened onthe show was major in my life. It was very important to meto preserve my personal space and my mental space becausesubject matters like that could take you down a dark road, so in the back of yourmind, you’re thinking oh my God, did I reallyjust share my entire life? Like, there’s no other secret. – Yeah. – [Carlton] You get what I’m saying? – Yeah. – So like, on one end I feel very free since doing the show butthen on the other end, I’m just very disappointed that, like, love didn’t work out theway I wanted for it to. – What you did in confrontingthat and doing that on a television show likethis takes an incredible amount of bravery. – Thank you. – I know we were allvery, very proud of you. – [Carlton] Thank you so much. – For doing that. – Still processing it, you know. It’s kinda weird sometimes, but I’m proud at the end of the day. – Damian and Gi, so ya’ll are together? Please dish. – We are so together, like every single day,waking up next to each other, and going to the gym together. I don’t wanna lose this.

brain teasers for married couples I don’t wanna lose this.

2 brain teasers for married couplesI don’t wanna lose this. I just don’t. – [Nick] That’s awesome. – And I didn’t. – Okay, so Diamond, howyou been since this show? – I’ve been great. I’ve been waiting on Beyonce to call me. (laughing) Everybody’s been lovingthat for some reason, that I quoted her, (laughing) but anyways, back to me, everything’s been great. I’m working on my PhD, so I’m going back to school. – [Nick] Wow, congratulations. (applauding) – Thanks, guys, and I know, for each andevery one of us can say that this was like a veryhard thing to open up to the world and allow people to come in and even judge, and you know, we have to really take that all in, and also try to be able to cope with it. – Yes, especially in this day and age, when you’ve got those keyboard warriors. We’ll get to those. – Exactly. – Lauren and Cameron, so you guys, just like Amber and Barnett, found love in this experiment, got married, and are still together. – Still together. – So what’s happening? What’s going on? – Oh, life for us hasbeen really, really good. I mean, each and every day islike our own little experiment because we’re still learning each other, even though we’ve beenmarried for over a year now. – Yeah. – Trust me, that never stops. – Well, seriously, neverbeen as happy as I am with Cameron, like, he makes me so happy. – I can’t wait to diveinto that love story, and I’m gonna come up here to Mark. How are you? – I’m good. As a man, I think I learnedmore about vulnerability, communication, and just, I don’t know, just more about myself. I think I could speak for everybody here that like it was totallyworth the price of admission, and yeah, life’s been good. – And you’re single now? – Yes, I am single. – So guys, it’s probably oneof the most asked questions, but how was it dating in the pods? – I know I said myself alot that it was possible that this could work for me,

3 brain teasers for married couplesthat this could work for me, but I honest to God didn’tthink it was probable. I went on this show thinking, you know, it’s a chance to find love. Why not? Let’s see what happens, but. – Yeah, I mean, hey, I wasas skeptical as anyone was probably watching coming into this. – Is there anything that in a pod, where you’re like this is not the one? Like it an instant like? (murmuring) (laughing) She was like oh, Diamond,you’re a stripper. She was like. – Nope. (laughing) – If you would’ve givenme a second chance. (laughing) – He’s still trying to be smooth. (laughing) – So Barnett, you hadenough going on as it was. – And I’m so sorry thatI feel asleep on Amber. I’m so sorry. (laughing) – Okay, in all fairness, in this process, it was exhausting, and the second date, they, nobody got to see Carlton. – She was all over me on the second date. – Get out of here, no. (laughing) – Hear me, and Carlton say, oh my God, you’re so interesting, I wish I had known thison the first date, okay? So no, I am not boring. – Barnett and Diamond,you guys didn’t connect, but as I mention. – I love you Barnett. – You had a pretty active thing going on as far as dating in the pods and there was a lot going on there. – I dated like 15 women. (laughing) – Should we watch a clip? – Oh. – I think we should watch a clip. – Me and LC were very freakingsimilar and it’s like, what’s going on here,like why are we so alike? With Amber, she excites me, but she also scares the living hell out of me. – [Jessica] Hey, B. – Hey, girl. I think Jessica is my number one because every time I talk to her there’s like mad goosebumps. (chuckles) I love everything about these girls but all in different ways,and I’m like, what the hell? What am I supposed to do? – Let’s talk about this a little bit. Now we just watched thatclip, and seeing how secure Amber and Jessica and LC allfelt about their relationship with you in the pods, watchingthat and looking back, would you have done anything differently? – Actually, no. The last couple years,before I went on the show, I was kinda like, emotionally empty. I had no connections, Icouldn’t figure myself out, excuse my spit, but. (laughing) – [Nick] Could we get a napkin please? – [Amber] So smooth, so smooth. – Or a bib? – [Kenny] Or a bib? – Face mask deal. Anyhoo, so it’s reallycrazy to go to a place where you actually start opening up and you feel peopleaccepting your emotions that you’ve never really shown to anybody so it was just kinda crazy. I think most people could attest to that, that I’m not very, like I’m not super good with girls actually, so it’skinda funny to see it, but. I don’t know, I guess,when you think back to it and you’re sittin’ theretrying to figure out who would be the bestwife, you kinda want to see what they think about even getting married and I may not have used the best words, like saying I wouldpropose to you tomorrow or something like that, but I feel like it gives you a good idea ofhow someone’s gonna react to the thought of even marrying you, so. – Do you feel like you have any regrets with how things went down? – I always regret everything I say, so. (laughing) – Ahem. – No, I don’t regret anything, really. I think that maybe thereare better words to use to feel those feelings out but I mean, really I don’t regret it ’cause it got me to where I am today so. – Everyone has a differentpath that they take on something like this, andso that was your journey. – And to see him, he’scrackin’ his knuckles, and I feel you. I’m a little uncomfortable,so you guys are actually seeing this process andlike, for Amber, you knew. You knew, ’cause on the women’s side you’re like, you knew this. – There was a very strongsense of girl power over there and we were all leaningon each other a lot and we were very supportive and open about who we were all interested in, and when it got to thepoint that LC and I realized we both really cared about Barnett, we came to a mutual decision, like, can we just not talkabout our dates with him, and she was really respectful about that, so Jessica coming out of left field, trying to tell me that heproposed to her that night. – Maybe he’s, like, havingissues but he told me tonight that he just doesn’t know what he wants and he’s fucked up in his head. That’s what he told me. After last night, literallytold me he was gonna marry me. – I was not happy. I confronted Matt about Jessica, and I said, what the hell? What’s going on here, likewhat are you thinking, what are you doing, what do you want? He told me he was tryingto figure things out and feel it out and he was like, he shouldn’t have said that. That wasn’t how he meant it. I’m like okay, that’snot how you meant it. I believe you, like thatwas all I, I trusted him. As far as I was concerned,that was nothing after the fact so to see her throwingherself at him in Mexico. Bitch, you’re shysty. You’re so fake, coming tomy face like we were cool. You are so fake. I think you are a very disingenuine person and you know what, I hopeseeing this, you do grow from it because that is not what the world needs is women who go behindpeople’s backs like that. You were engaged to anotherman that you were leading on. He was engaged, he made his choice. Anyhoo, so no, I’m notsuper happy seeing that, but I would have beena lot more comfortable had somebody else said like, hey, I’m still having feelings for him. – Do you think you shouldhave come forward sooner? Do you think, I still respectthe way I kept it to myself? – Yeah, so, I mean (clears throat) for me, obviously there’s, to goback to Barnett’s point that I really wanted to see how my relationship was with everyone. Everyone needs to realizethis was days, not weeks, that we’re trying to find aconnection to spend forever with someone so I reallywanted to vet everything out. Obviously I was rejected by Barnett. I didn’t take that very well. Seeing that play out is brutal. So I was really trying to keep myself open and work that all out. I don’t think that necessarily played out but I do definitely owe amajor apology to you, Amber, and to Barnett who, Isuper respect them both. I respect theirrelationship and definitely was not good of me toeven ever question that, so I apologize and I havenothing but the most respect for you both and wishyou nothing but the best and I’m just happy thatI was able to participate in an experiment where this does work out and there are happy, married couples. It’s, I have no hard feelingstowards you whatsoever at all. – I have a whole lot ofrespect for you for coming here and being a part of thisand being big enough to say, I messed up and I apologize. – I want to clear this air. She is apologizing. Do you accept that apologyor is there something that you’re like, I just wishthat this would have happened so that we can all move on? – My, I had a full understandingof what this experiment was and I knew that she may havehad a crush on him still and the fact that she wasgoing to him behind my back with me in the same roomsaying these things like, are you sure this is what you want, yeah, that bothered me,because if you still have feelings for my husband and you’re engaged to myfriend, the least you can do is be honest with everybodyelse about where you are at, and I fully believe in beingupfront and I have no filter. As you guys have seen, I have no filter. So what I needed to be okaywith this was for her to say, look, I’m still feelinghim, I’m still confused, so that I’m not sittingthere looking like a fool thinking we’re cool, we’re friends. – Well, I don’t know thatyou were lookin’ like a fool ’cause you got the guy,but she had her process, so do you accept an apology now, or are you like, I stillneed a minute to process? – I accept the intent behind the apology. I can’t be fully there yet. – [Vanessa] Yeah, and that’s okay. – [Nick] Well, the process continues. – I know every one ofyou sitting here today decided to choose to spendthe rest of your life with someone, sight unseen. So let’s hear more about whatwas going through your minds when you saw each otherfor the very first time. (dramatic music) – Ho ho! (laughing) (dramatic music) – [Vanessa] Aww. – [Nick] Whoa. Heh heh. – [Vanessa] Yeah, D-Money. – [Nick] Smooth, smooth. – Who surprised you the most when you guys saw them in person because you obviously talked to everybody? Like, everybody dated, evenfor the speed date round, everybody dated, so who did you see that you were like, wow? – I’d say Lauren, honestly, ’cause I think you and I talked twice, or we dated twice, and I mean, you’recaptivating, you’re stunning, and it shines through. – I agree with that. I mean, it is funny, I love you Cam, but, (laughing) it is, because me and Lauren,I think we dated every day up ’til the point of engagements. – [Lauren] Yeah, we, yeah. – We dated every single day, and we had the best conversations. – We would laugh all the time. – We started talking in Star Wars voices. (laughing) – We really did. – Wait a minute. We gotta see a Star Wars date right now, like what’s your voice sound like? – [Damian] You want me to do it? – [Lauren] It’s just like, hey baby! (laughing) – Hi, Lauren. Hi, Lauren. I was trying to do the Yoda thing, but I’m not getting casted for Star Wars. (laughing) – I was really surprised to see Mark. I really was. He actually reallyattractive, like he’s like. – [Damian] Rico Suave. – Good looking guy. (laughing) Wears his heart on his sleeve,so I really thought like, he’s a beautiful person. – You know, y’all areboth single right now. (laughing) – So we have a pod in our garage. (laughing) – Well, we already seen each other, so. – We talked a lot aboutthe emotional connection that all of you, Ithink, found on the show, but you guys took thatemotional connection and you developed a physical connection and obviously with that, face-to-face time brings new challenges, bringsnew obstacles to light, and reality really started to sink in. We’ll see right here. – [Carlton] Diamond? – Yes. – Will you be my wife? – [Diamond] Oh my god. – Will you marry me? (romantic music)(crying) – [Diamond] Oh my gosh. Yes. – [Carlton] You will? – [Diamond] Yes. – Baby! (squealing) – [Carlton] Ah, the onethat just sounds despairs. – I know, right. What is it like, Carlton,Diamond, to see that? – I get emotional, I really do, because to actually hearsomeone actually say, do you wanna be my queen,do you want to be my wife, I’ve never heard that before,and to hear those words, a lot of us been wantingthat for a long time. Christ, you see I was crying like a baby because I’ve never heard those words, I didn’t even know how to respond to it other than, I knew I wanted to do this. – And Carlton, you said it’s a lot? – Yeah, it’s a lot. It’s, I think it just goes back to, no one will fully ever understand what was going throughmy head in that moment. That day, still to this day, by far is the happiest day of my life, to the point where I’mactively trying to top it so that we can just move tothe next chapter of my life. – Well, as we all know,once Carlton and Diamond got to Mexico, their relationshipshifted almost immediately and it came to a head themorning after you, Carlton, opened up to Diamond aboutyour past relationships. – I’m okay with or withoutthis situation, I am okay. – Boy, you know what? I ain’t got time for this becauseyou having a bad attitude. – [Carlton] Go ahead, go ahead. – No, this not even for you. – [Carlton] Have your moment. – You have your moment. I don’t care if you’renot fuckin’ with me. I gave you that ring back. – I don’t give a fuck about a ring. Fuck a ring! Fuck a ring! This is why I don’t dealwith bitches like you. – Oh, I’m a bitch now. You gonna call me a bitch to my face? – I don’t deal with women like you. – Fuck you. Fuck you, fucker. – [Carlton] Yeah, fuck like me. – [Diamond] Fuck you. – [Carlton] Bye. – ‘Cause you, watch myass turn on that dick boy. – Watch your wig, ’cause it keeps sliding. – [Diamond] Who thefuck do you think I am? – [Carlton] Your wig been sliding since. – You ain’t married tono average dick boy. – [Carlton] Peace out. – Okay. I first of all want to thankboth Carlton and Diamond for coming here today for the reunion. I know that this has been hard, and kind of what I wastalking about earlier, we have a lot of keyboard warriors and a lot of the fanshave voiced their opinions so I’ll start with you, Carlton. How are you feeling being here? – Um, so it’s very awkward. It’s obviously something new for me. I’ve gotten death threats. It brings you to a very dark space. The biggest misconceptionis that fluid people are just like rabbits, just hopping around sleeping with everyone,talking to both parties at the same time, and that we have no self-control sexually andI think it’s very unfair, and it’s a very ignorantassumption for anyone to make. Out of everything, I think I’vemore concerned with Diamond and her backlash and Ijust want to make it clear that the woman that I fell in love with, I’ve never felt that shewas bi-phobic, homophobic, or that she wouldn’t love me. I just was afraid thatwe would have some issues that we would have to work through. The types of feedback thatI’ve been getting online, it’s no reflection of who I am. Now, do I deserve some of the feedback? Yes I do, because Imade a horrible mistake and indirectly called her out of her name. That is something thatshould have never happened. There’s no excuse. – And I told myself,before the show started I want to at least be comfortablewith him in the same room and I didn’t want any animosityor any tension towards us. I felt like I could at least do that, at least hear what you have to say and then he did apologize. – Who initiated that, that contact? – I think it was happyholidays or your birthday. – That’s how we were able to move forward and even be here, because like you said, he was getting remarksand people attacking him. I’m getting the same thing, I’ve gotten death threats as well, I’ve gotten a lot, beencalled those names. I was really hurt by that and I’m like, well why would they, people seeing it in a totally different perspective? My goal right there in that scene was to just talk to himand get more understanding ’cause I didn’t know about it. I didn’t want it to getcrazy and out of control and me going off andcoming out of my character ’cause that’s not who I am, although if you do messwith me I do have a tendency to put my foot down. – You were just spewing words and I know, sitting here watching youwatch that, you’re mortified. You’re like, this is not me. So if you have an opportunitynow to right that scene, and I’ll start with you, Diamond, what would you want to say? – So I guess, in my way,maybe I should have just approached it a lot differentlyand being more comforting and maybe approached itin a way of saying that, I respect you as a person. You all right? – Yeah, I’m good. – Would you have told her sooner and do you think that wouldhave made a difference? – I would have done whatever it takes to be sitting on the couch as happy as these people, even these people. I would have done whateverit took had I known then that that’s what it took tosit here happily married. – To her. – Yeah. I think that in that moment, I felt I went back into my shell. It was a shell that it wasdifficult breaking out of, not to mention in front of the world and once something justfelt like it wasn’t right, I immediately let fear sink in and like, oh I have to go back intoCarlton’s the only person who’ll defend Carlton andunderstand Carlton mode, and that has translatedinto my everyday life. Sometimes, people may say,oh he’s so into himself or he’s so standoffish. It’s not that I want to be. It’s just that whole fear of rejection and being judged for something that, why do we have to bejudged for who we love? That’s so lame to me. – Even now, I could see people going, okay, well now you’ve cleared the air, so you’re good, right? What is that like now for youto sit here across from him? – I mean, no one, I knowyou wouldn’t allow him to disrespect you like that. I see your love, I see you guys are really passionate about each other and I always felt like a manshould have his woman’s back. When we couldn’t even justhave an open communication just to be able to say hey,this is me, let’s move forward, let’s move past thisand just that disrespect as to myself, I can neverprobably let that go and move past that. – And I think that it’s fair now to say that you probably won’t get back together because you feel you’re that hurt and you’re that disrespected and that was a red flag for you? – I think what I’mhearing from both of you is regret that that sceneever played itself out. – It’s disappointing thatthere is a line drawn because my sole purposeof coming here today, as much as I didn’t want to,I wanted to make it clear that I am here for you. No matter what was said orwhat we’ve been through, at the end of the day you’remy ex-fiance in real life. Forgiveness sometimes meanslet’s create something beautiful through all the darknessand today, I would like for it to be the start of creating something really beautiful, and I’m not proposing toyou, before you’re like, uhh. (laughing) – Okay. – Didn’t seem like a good idea. – Like, uh, are we really gonna do this? – Let me get down on oneknee and just apologize again at eye level and I hope thatyou take this ring again as a significant piece of our friendship and the start of something beautiful without any type of plan, orthis is our plan of action. Look familiar? (laughing) – Did you go in the pool for that? – Sure did, sure did. – I do. I accept your apologyand I do forgive you. – [Carlton] All right,well I think I’m supposed to put it on your finger first. – Oh, okay. (laughing) Oh, it don’t fit anymore. Oh my god, okay. Thank you. (applauding) – Want the box? – [Diamond] Sure. – [Nick] Wow. – I’m never speechless. – Trust me, never happens, but that was. – I don’t know what to say. – Thank you. – But that’s what today’s all about. Well, another relationshipthat had everyone talking from the moment she proposedto the moment he said I don’t, Giannina and Damian. – I wanna ask you, Damian Powers. Will you marry me? – I will marry you. – I’ll marry you too. – [Giannina Voiceover]I needed someone strong, ’cause I need to be able to really be me. – [Damian] I felt closerand a stronger connection with her than I have anyone else before. – You guys were fiery from the get go. There was a lot of passion. Damian, have you ever datedsomeone like Gi before? – I could combine all of themtogether and it’d still be no. (laughing) – Well, so Gi, you, theproposal heard ’round the world, (laughing) did you know you weregonna get down on your knee and propose to Damianor did that just happen in the moment, in the pod,you’re like, I’m doing this? – I had no idea I was gonna do that. – Really? – I didn’t. – Oh. – What I, (light laughing) I mean, I wish I could say I’m like, yeah, I was gonna propose to him, but I, everything thatDamian was saying to me while we were in the pods,he always spoke about wanting to find hisequal and that’s always what I wanted too and that’s what made me say, we’re soulmates. It was the first time where I felt like, if he says yes, thenokay, we’re so in this and it’s not even funnyhow we’re gonna be in it ’cause it was just, hesees me and he gets me. – But then you go all theway to the wedding day. So, do you think you andDamien weren’t ready? – I mean, yeah I, looking back I respect his decision. I feel like where we are now is just, it’s so right for uswhere we can just date and he has his own place,I have my own place and we, we’re getting to knoweach other at our own pace and it’s just so refreshing and, it hurt so much but it’s allabout, what can I do with that and what did I learn from that. – Well, you mention that. It was hard, I think,for all of us to watch both of your emotionalreactions to that day. – You blamed everythingon me and all I did was tell you how I felt, and I wanted to work everything out with you. – Gi, Gi. – I wanted to work it out so bad. – This is you running. – So bad. – And I’m trying to talk to you. I know what happened is embarrassing and you’ll never forgiveme for it and I’m sorry. – You messed up. Honestly. (fabric ripping) That was such bullshit. (fabric ripping) You can take your bow back. – I mean, looking back on that, would you have done anythingdifferent on that wedding day? – No. – Why not? – It was definitely a stronglove from the beginning and we pushed through a lot of challenges as did everyone here,but I wanted it every day since the day I told herI loved her in the pods, and it turned into our love story, but she was in and out of it so much. The butterflies weren’t there, stuff even like the sex conversation. By getting to the day of the wedding, me and her had talked and I said, look, no matter what happens,we leave this together, and she’s like yeah, we do, and when she said I do, I didn’t, I didn’t expect that. I thought she was gonnabe the one to say I don’t, and I was gonna say,okay well I don’t either. I’ll walk away with you. I wish I could take thepain away from her that day and the hurt and the embarrassment. To her family and friends, I’m sorry that I ever put her through that. I am, and to you, I’m sorry, but it was the hardest decision I’ve probably ever madein my life, honestly, and I would stick by it againbecause of where we are now. – So, okay, I love, lovethat you are proving that love is blind. This is beyond the show, andhow has your relationship evolved since we stopped filming? – So, I mean right after,there was a lot of things that we both come into terms with. I was so afraid ofdriving this person away that I was just instinctivelydoing it anyway. I guess, like the whole thingwith me is I self-sabotage and I’m aware of that and I felt because we were in the pods andwe would communicate so well that he could instinctivelytell, but he couldn’t. He couldn’t read my mind, hecouldn’t know these things, so when I felt frustrated,I just let it out in very non-constructive, insensitive ways and looking, especiallylooking back on it now, it’s just, how did you ever come about and be so calm and patient with me, and I really just want to takethat time to apologize to you and I never want to hurt you either. You know, we both have expressed ourselves in really hard ways, butyou know, since the show, it’s just, it’s been suchan amazing journey with you to get to know you andto see how we integrate with each other’s lives and myfriends and family love you, (chuckling) and so there’sjust all these fears that we were never there in thefirst place so, I’m so happy. (crying) – I love that you guyshave the wherewithal to be able to see yourfaults, and I don’t mean that in a negative way, but to see what it is you have to work on. I’m so proud of you guys,and I love your love. Well, Kelly and Kenny were a couple that seemed solid from the beginning, but as the experiment wenton, fans were surprised to see that maybe things weren’t as perfect as they initially seemed. – We were able to make thiscommitment to each other, and then we haven’t had sex yet. I know how I feel about it. Like, how do you feel about it? – We are just so perfect on every level, and I just don’t want to throwthat in the mix just yet. And that’s why I keep feelinglike I’m not in love with him, because I feel like if I was in love, I would have that infatuationlike, nothing else matters. – The emotion was there because there were senses of guilt andsenses of embarrassment, getting my friends andfamily involved with it. Didn’t even know how thiswould come to fruition and be portrayed to themasses and quite honestly, it doesn’t matter. So, I love the fact that I was able in that moment to share that. I think about all thetakeaways that I went through on the show, I’ve appliedto my current relationship and I’ve been able to bevulnerable and I’ve received it. My takeaway at this point is that I am not embarrassed by anything and that is why I’m supposed to be here, is to hopefully impact othersto make them feel supported in times of fear, in times of doubt, ’cause there’s nothing you can’t overcome. – I say, Kenny for President. (laughing) So, Kelly, it was hard. At what point did you knowyou were gonna say, I don’t? – Right. – I mean, I can see nowhow emotional you are. – Yeah. (sniffling) I mean, from day one ofwatching the show back, it’s definitely brought up every emotion. I cry not just from my journey, but Carlton’s, everybodymade me cry. (laughs) I think with Kenny and my relationship, I think we both agreed to anI don’t way before the wedding and for me it’s like,although yes, I was not like that girl that plannedeverything of her wedding to a T as like a dream, this is how my wedding’s gonna be, but I imagined how my wedding would be. I wanted a bridal shower,I wanted those things. I wanted the conventional, and I’m like, you guys, I just, I don’tknow how you did it. I kept saying, my head andmy heart are not connecting. My head and my heart are not connecting, they’re not in theright place and I think, something for me is thatwhat I have learned, what I have reflected on is the fact that Kenny, you were amazing. You’re a great guy and I did love you. I did love you, I was not inlove with you, as we mentioned, but I did love you and Iwanted to continue our journey of dating and getting to know one another, and that didn’t happen, andit’s water under the bridge now. I’m so happy for you in your relationship, but I think I just need, I needed time. For me, it’s like, againKenny being such a great guy, I have friend-zoned a lot ofthose great guys in my life and those are probably all the guys that I shouldn’t be marrying. Now it’s like, Kelly, stop thinking like, we attract who we are. Put it out there into the universe, what are you gonna acceptnow into your life. – Yes, what a love storythat ended in two I do’s, is Amber and Barnett. – What what? (laughing) – Yes, you said I do andshe said I do, Barnett. That’s two I do’s. – Oh. – You guys pulled thetrigger, you both said I do, you got married and it’sbeen what, over a year now, so how’s it been? – It’s been a wild ride, I’d say. (scoffs) It’s a. – Lots of laughs. A lot of fun. – All we do is have fun, like I mean. – That’s. – Not all we do, we’ve hadthe normal arguments and stuff that everybody probably has, but shoot, I’m really excited thatwe found each other and have gotten to growtogether over the last year. I mean, really, it’s been crazy. – It’s been a great adventure, and I’m actually reallyproud of how far we’ve come from where we were in the pods and how fast the process kind of was. I know there is one pointwhere we almost broke because we had such expectations out of what we wanted out of a husband and wife and we knew we were marriedand we knew we were in love but also we were stilllearning each other. I was working as a cocktailwaitress and there as well, I was making Matt so uncomfortable,like, I wasn’t working, so that was putting strain because I was so financially dependenton him which was new to me. I’ve never been financiallydependent on somebody before. I’ve always had to figurethat out for myself and had friends help me along the way, but financially dependenton him was something that was totally new and then I think him, y’all saw how he liketo flirt with people, so obviously he was totallyused to his bachelor life and I was used to my bachelor life too but I think it took us a while to hang out and party together. – And be respectful. – [Matt] Yes.- Yeah. Normally in a relationship,as you’re dating, you take time and you adjust to that, but we were married soimmediately we expected it to be different, to be changed,and we weren’t giving the, giving it the time thatit needed to adjust. – Interesting. – To get used to it. I, at one point actually called about, potentially getting the divorce lawyer. I was like, this isn’t working. Something’s not. – [Vanessa] Oh, you threw the D word out. – Yeah, I. – Definite. – Sorry, Mama Barnett, Ilove you, just kidding. – I’m a stubborn asshole, so it’s. – Which, I’m stubborn too,so we butted heads a lot and that took time to figure out how to do because when we were stillin the bubble on the show, we hadn’t really butt heads at that point, so ’cause everything was just so perfect. – It was easy. – But seeing how we both are so stubborn and strong-minded and bullheaded, we butt heads, it could bebad, it could be intense, so figuring out how to handle that, it made a huge difference for us. – Yeah. – We stopped trying to forcewhat we expected on each other and once that happened,it’s just nothing but really good things since then. – So I love that you guyshave found what you need to have a lasting relationship, and that is working on these challenges. – You guys are happy, clearly,and that’s a beautiful thing so it’s great to see. – So for Mark and Jessica,their relationship kept us on the edge through the entire experiment. We wanted to see howthis was gonna unfold, so check out this clip. – In the outside world, I would have never looked twice at Mark. I would have figured out his age or maybe that he was a fitness instructor and that would be somethingmaybe I wouldn’t have been into. Usually, I’m someone whoruns before commitment but Mark has exceeded every expectation. Taking those vows, it’s a huge commitment and it’s something I take very seriously. – Jessica, what’s it likefor you to watch that over and watch your relationshipwith Mark on the show? – Yeah, actually I kinda lookeddown ’cause I’ve seen it all and I don’t need to see it again. Yeah, it’s tough because watching it back, it was obvious that I wasworking through some things. I still don’t like the person that I saw and the things that played out, obviously I was really uncomfortable. I was drinking too much and that was really disturbing to see play out and some of the comments Imade that were derogatory, and that certainly wasn’t fair to Mark, who’s a fantastic person, and obviously very, very attractive. I’ve gotten a lot ofmessages about that and it’s, that was never a concernwhatsoever and you knew that. I need to start with afriendship which ultimately, that’s not a good situationto sign yourself up for when you need something that’s gonna maybe progress a little bit slower. – Mark, I want to ask you. What, what in your opinion was the reason, or maybe reasons, that itdidn’t work out with Jessica? – Um, wow. I think we were just twopeople trying to figure it out. We got engaged in 10 days and I think that you get into this situationand maybe we just, even myself, like I didn’trealize how much all of it was, how intense it was andI think we were just both trying to figure it outand she is a phenomenal woman. I still to this day, like ayear and a half has gone by and I still, I learned so many values and still have so much respect for you. No matter what happenedand what went down, I’ve become a better man. I know you are introspective,and I know you’ve done the same thing, and Icouldn’t be more thankful to go through it with someone like you, and I think that’s why, if anybody asks, that’s why I’m like, oh Markkinda feels strung along, no, we did have reallypowerful, strong moments, even when we were in person. – It’s almost like I blindedmyself, no pun intended, because I had these thoughtsabout the age difference and I annoyed the livinghell out of myself. It’s tough watching it back, but seeing the connection that we had, obviously that surpassedany differences that we had, which we found out were many. I think we just needed more time. – Yeah, I agree. – And to commit to him, thatthat was gonna be forever, he didn’t deserve that’cause I wasn’t there. – I will say and I know we’re all here to clear the air and everything like that. I wish you would have told me the Barnett. I feel like we, I thought wecleared the air about that, like if you were stillhaving re-occurring feelings of how Barnett or anybody elsethat was in the experience. I felt like that couldhave been an obstacle we could have talked aboutand tackled together. – Yeah, so I just sawthe behaviors that I have in the real world, whereI normally go after something that’s unavailable,and I think you see that I kinda struggle with just accepting and understanding thatpeople just can love you and accept you for who you are, and then also I was served whiskey. Like I said, the comment was not something that I ever should havesaid and that’s truthfully not how I felt in the moment, so I don’t know how to answer it. I really didn’t have thosefeelings for him at that time. – Not to hold thepressure and what you were feeling like that day, I still remember it and I am sorry that we gotkinda sucked into this vacuum and I’m sorry that we didn’t really get that chance and opportunity toreally get to know each other and get to know eachother’s friends, family, and what we stand for,but at the end of the day, I still respect you and I stillam thankful for all of this and I know that no matter what you decide to do moving forward, you’regonna be even better off and kicking ass, so. – I was always honest and Iget a lot of hate for that. – You come right and you tell it. – I was always honest from day one that it wasn’t fair,for sure, so I’m sorry. – You still never made meItalian beef, by the way. (laughing) You said that the firstday, that’s all I mean. – That’s right, I forgot about that. – Just kidding. – No, no, no, it’s not too late for that. Well, guys, obviously whilenot every relationship has a fairy tale ending, Laurenand Cameron’s relationship had the happy endingeverybody was rooting for. – Before, I wasn’t reallythat happy, to be honest. I think it was because Ifelt like I was missing you. – I’ve never had a man so just willing to show me how much he loves me. – So, you gotta catch us up now. How is married life, how’s it been? – Well, we really started toget to know each other more and do things togetherthat we’ve never done, I mean, of course comingfrom different backgrounds, as they said so much on the show, (laughing) but you know, it’s like we’re able to teach each other things that the other may not have experienced or enjoyed, so I feel like Cameron hasopened my eyes to so many things, like he teaches me stuff every day. He’s so loving, he’s sogenuine, he got me a puppy. We have a furbaby, like, life is good. – I think people often think that changing who you are is a negative thing. I mean, Lauren’s an amazing woman. Obviously we all know that. Just being with her, I feelchanged me in many ways. I mean, watching the show back, it was still me but I feellike I’ve evolved over time because I’ve become morelike her in a lot of ways. – I don’t think that changes either. After you get married,it’s just like you continue to evolve into each other. – [Nick] Yeah, nope. (laughing) – Whose idea was the furbaby? – All me.- All Lauren. – That was a part of, like, I was like, if we get married, I have to get a puppy. – Yeah, that was inour marriage agreement. The thing from my mom was, she had known that I had always said, Iwould never date a woman who wanted to have a dog, whichsounds crazy in retrospect. (laughing) She knew it was truelove because I told her, yeah, we’re gonna get adog and that was something we agreed on, and so she was sold. She knew it was true love. – His name is Sparks, ’cause of sparks, because this. – Oh, that’s so cute! (cast murmuring) – Like, the furbaby, we got a furbaby and that was like, we’re then committing to seeing what we wouldbe like as parents. – Oh, yeah. – Are y’all excitedabout that opportunity? Is that actively happening? – We’re definitely excited. We’ve already talked about, our kids could look likeanything from this to this. It could be Drake, itcould be Barack Obama. (laughing) So we are just, one day. – They’re gonna be gorgeous. – [Damian] Hopefully soon. – [Lauren] Oh, thank you. – You know, we gotta talk about Dad. – Oh yeah, Papa Speed. – Papa Speed. (laughing) He kept it real. – He did. – If I think about how it would be if my daughter came to me and said, hey, Dad, I’m getting married to somebody that you don’t know or never met, I. – And you met through a wall chat. – You’re a white guy, she’s a black woman. Let’s talk about that. – I had a serious relationshipprior to meeting Lauren. We dated for five years. – Okay. – She was a black woman. I’ve experienced being inan interracial relationship where people have issue. – Well, that’s noteverything, but it certainly gonna play a factor inhow you live in the world. – Your daughter is the mostamazing woman I’ve ever met. I fell in love with herwithout ever having seen her. – I don’t judge you by anything other than how you treat her. – I appreciate that. – Okay, let’s see how this goes. – Lauren’s dad, I mean, Ilove him, and we’re family. He loves Lauren so much and. – Here we go, crying again. (laughs) – I mean, we have thatin common and also too, Lauren has a strongconnection with her father, so it makes sense thatI would love him too because she’s emulated him. In a lot of ways, she’s her own person but they have a lot in common. – At first, I was kinda nervous because me and my dad are so close. Sorry, and I’ve never reallyintroduced him to a boyfriend, so for me to introduceCameron as my fiance for the first time, himever meeting anybody, that was a lot on its own,but for me it was kinda scary and, but Cameron was coolas a fan the whole time. He’s like, I went over it soI’m good, I’ll just be me. So, of course I was nervous, but I’m happy that things turned out great. Both of our family are so important to us. I love Cameron’s family, likehis mom, his dad, his sister. I’ve visited Maine a couple times, they show me the deers, honey always. Out there in the appleorchard, it was great. So, you know, me comingfrom Detroit, the city, that’s a whole new world to me. I felt like Jasmine in Aladdin. (laughing) Yeah, but it’s beautifuljust how our families have blended and merged, like we just had, ooh, I feel like I’m snotty to y’all. – No, here we got atissue right here, girl. Aww, he got a hanky! Stop it. We just had Thanksgivingtogether for the first time with both of our families recently and that was so beautiful tosee our dads getting together, Bobby drinking bourbon, ourmoms baking in the kitchen, a dog running crazy, it was just like wow. It was such a beautiful moment. – I’m, I’m, (stammering),I’m getting emotional too because it’s (stammering), sorry. Now I commend your familiesand all of your families who are coming together toaccept you for who you are and to trust your judgmentand to trust your opinion. This is true, this isreal, this is who you are, and this is the man that you love, and your dad accepted that,he didn’t hold you back. So you can honestly,truly say, love is blind. I truly believe that youguys are finding yourself, if not have found yourselvesthrough this process and sometimes it took aroute of finding a guy and going to Mexico with him. Sometimes it took a routeof saying some stuff on TV that you think iscringeworthy and sometimes it took a route ofrunning down the streets of Atlanta, Georgia in a wedding dress. (laughing) – Most that I’ve ran in my life. – And I am just, I’m soamazed and I could honestly, and I believe that Nickand I have said this, that this was called a social experiment, a love experiment if you will, but ultimately theseare your real emotions. This is your heart. – Absolutely. Yeah, even if the endresult wasn’t marriage for all of you in this love experiment, it clearly affected how each of you looks at love and relationships today. We’ve all said we’ve learneda lot from this experience. Mark, what have you learned walking away from this experience? – I think that all of thethings that we went through prepared me for who I’m supposed to be, and that’s why I’m foreverthankful for this experience. – Yeah, and I think nowI’m standing much stronger, much more independent knowing who I am and I’m gonna be much, I’m gonna be ready onceI find the right person. – I’ve definitely learnedthat at the moment that you feel like you lovesomeone and they love you, there’s no fear involved in love. You should be able to let go and just completely be yourselves. – And that everything atthe core of it is love, self-love in particular. If you can’t accept yourself, your flaws, your great moments, thethings that you think are so cringeworthy, that you’re afraid to show that other person, if you can’t accept those,than you’re not going to be able to allow someone in. – All right, you guys. One last round of Raise Your Hands Dang. – Should we do it? – Even if in the end, marriagewasn’t in it for you guys, raise your hands if you thinklove really can be blind. (laughing) – [Nick] Wow. – Yeah? I think we need a dang, you guys. – That says it all, right. – That says it all. Thank you again so muchto these wonderful humans, these incredible individuals who have opened up their hearts. – And then opened themselves up again to share how they’re doing now. So guys, again thank you for your honesty. Thank you for giving all ofyourselves to this experiment, and thank you for loving each other. – Love is Blind, seasonone, down in the books. (applauding) (upbeat music)

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